members of your family,
- friends
- sexual partner
- close mates
- employer
- employees
- members of sporting or leisure clubs
When relationships break down
Stop for minute and think about the number of different types of relationships that you have, with the people you know and you’ll probably be amazed at the number!
Given this, it’s not surprising that at certain times some of these relationships will break down either temporarily or sometimes permanently leaving you sad, confused and lonely.
The impact that each breakdown will have upon you, depend on the type of relationship it is and the sort of person you are. Everyone copes differently, so don’t be afraid to ask for help.
At Connexions we know that you are going to be affected by different breakdowns in different ways. For example, your parents splitting up will have more impact upon you than if a member of your youth club doesn’t speak to you for a couple of days. Remember, it is fine to feel sad, lonely and want to have someone to talk to.
Sexual relationships
Making the decision about when to have a sexual relationship with someone is a personal one that you shouldn’t be rushed or forced into.
If you are worried and feel the time isn’t right, the chances are that it isn’t, and you should say so. Sex isn’t something you do because you think your friends will be impressed or you have reached a certain age.
Safe sex
Once you’ve made the decision that you want to have a sexual relationship it is important that you choose safe sex. This means you will stay fit and healthy and avoid pregnancy.
There are lots of organisations where you can get advice on the different types of free contraception available as well as how to have safe sex.
What if things don’t go to plan?
Sometimes accidents happen and you will need to know about your options. For example this could include having an unplanned pregnancy or thinking that you may have a sexually transmitted disease (STD).
For advice on your options on these, view our list of recommended organisations
Bullying
Although bullying often starts with verbal abuse it can lead to physical attacks and threatening behaviour – such as the bully taking the victims money or belongings.
If you are the victim of bullying you should talk to someone who is in a responsible position in the place that the bullying is taking place immediately. They will know what to do. Most schools and youth centres have anti-bullying policies and will not tolerate bullying either inside or outside their premises. If you are a victim of bullying, please talk to someone so it can be stopped.
We understand how upsetting bullying is so we will help you to know what to do and how to cope.
You can also talk to:
CHILDLINE
0800 1111
KILBURN YOUTH CENTRE ADVICE AND INFORMATION
020 7328 7172